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If you’re wondering whether or not you have what it takes for single mum dating look no further than our list below. You’ll find all the crucial aspects of seeing someone who’s got kids to raise all by themselves so you can make an informed decision before letting your emotions get the best of you.
#1: Her Standards Are High
It’s completely wrong to assume a single mum has lowered her standards. She’s been through divorce, crappy relationships, and is a single parent, which is a pretty hefty achievement. If anything, she increased her standards to ensure she never winds up in a toxic relationship again if for nothing else than for the sake of her kids. With this in mind, rest assured you need to bring your A-game to the table if you want a single mum to give you her time of day.
#2: She’s Not Shopping for a Baby Daddy
A single mum is looking for a loving relationship that has a future. Rest assured you’re not going anywhere near her kids unless she’s absolutely sure you both are in it for the long haul. Don’t try to cozy up to her kids in the hopes of winning her affection because that just won’t work. She doesn’t need a baby daddy. She needs a mature person who can make her laugh and take her mind off of certain things. Sure, that person better be equipped to someday take over the daddy role, but he’ll have to prove himself worthy time and again before he even gets a chance.
#3: Forget About Unprotected Sex
Single mums are super careful when it comes to safety of all sorts, and unless you know exactly where they’re coming from, you couldn’t possibly imagine how STDs or an unplanned pregnancy could affect their lives. If you’re not willing to use protection every time, you can pretty much forget having sex with a single mum ever. She’s already got a mountain of responsibilities on her shoulders, doesn’t want to babysit your, and if you’re not mature enough to practice safe sex, she’s not going to waste her precious time on you.
#4: She’s Not Looking to Raise another Kid
If you’re still living with your parents, a single mum is unlikely to find you attractive. If you can’t hold a job and pay your own bills, chances are there will not be a second date. A single mum doesn’t need anyone to take care of her, but by all means, she has no intention of supporting a partner. What a single mum needs, is an equal partner, not another child that isn’t mature enough to lead a fulfilling life like a grown-up. A single mum has better things to do than to teach someone how to turn on a dishwasher, do their own laundry or balance a checkbook.
#5: Dates Cost, Even if you Pay
Paying for dinner or cab fare is not the only cost of going on a date. If we set aside the cost of getting her hair and nails done or getting a decent outfit that isn’t covered in baby puke, a single mum can’t go on a date without paying for a baby sitter. In some cases, a 70-dollar baby sitter costs more than the dinner, even if you get the check. In addition to being pressed for time, most single mums are pressed for money too, and anyone who’d like to take out a mum raising kids on her own needs to keep this in mind.
#6: Forget About Playing Games
A single mum may play catch with her son, but she’s not going to play any dating games with you. If you start jerking her around, you’ll be history because she’s got too much responsibility and very little time, and she has far better things to do than to waste it on the wrong person. Also, if you can’t treat her kids like you’d treat your own, don’t date a single mum. If you’d feel weird seeing her ex coming over to her place on a regular basis to co-parent the kid, move on to someone else. It takes a lot of guts and a lot of maturity to date a single mum so think twice before you try to get involved with her.
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