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While staying at home is absolutely necessary to our safety, that doesn’t mean it comes without challenges. One of those challenges being dating! How do we maintain our love lives while staying at home? We’ve paired up people for a virtual blind date… Tell My Story style 😉
Transcript provided by YouTube:
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– I used to kinda know Chinese and Spanish
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and now it’s like, I know none of it.
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– What?
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I don’t think I was ever in love
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with any of the guys that I’ve dated.
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I’m pretty cautious when it comes to falling in love.
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I guard my heart seriously.
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I’m the type of person, I’d rather fall in love
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with one person and one person only.
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– Sometimes I take an imperfection
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as something bigger than it needs to be.
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I think the pickiness comes in before
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I enter a relationship,
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where I’m weeding out people for things like,
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I don’t know, if they have a tattoo that I don’t like
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or if their hair is dyed or,
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not even dyed a certain color, just dyed,
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I’m like, “That’s dumb.”
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Just stuff like that, I get too picky.
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– [Man] We’re gonna show you some pictures of your man
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that you’ll be going on a date with.
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– Okay.
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– She’s not live on Zoom with some other producer
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who is watching me or something like that?
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– [Man] She’s not live right now.
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She won’t know what your reaction was
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until she watches the video.
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– Okay. – [Man] Here is your person.
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– Aw, he’s cute!
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– Aw.
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She’s cute.
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– Oh, he like his fun in the sun.
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– Striking a pose, I dig it.
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– What, he box?
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– That’s a good pic, I like this one the best.
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Looks really natural.
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– [Man] So would you date him?
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So would you date her?
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– I’m here.
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So your name is Brandon, and this is your story.
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You are 27 years old, you grew up in Cleveland, Ohio.
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Your family heritage is Native American and Black American.
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For COVID isolation, you are with no one at your home.
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So my name is Moses, and this is my story.
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I am 31 years old, I grew up in Las Vegas, Nevada.
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My family heritage is Nigerian American.
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And for COVID isolation, I am with my family
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at my parents’ home.
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So, your name is Faith, and this is your story.
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You are 28 years old.
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You grew up in Maryland, I said an hour east of Baltimore.
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Your family heritage is West African.
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And for COVID isolation,
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you are with roommates at your home.
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– My name is Brionna, and this is my story.
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I am 25 years old.
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I grew up in Charlotte, North Carolina.
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My family heritage is Cherokee and Black American.
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And for COVID isolation, I am with my daughter, Sasha,
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at my apartment.
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– Okay.
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I’m sorry for the age estimate, I apologize.
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I thought it was– – No, that’s fine.
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That’s fine.
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Usually people, they decrease instead of increase.
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I usually get 18, 20s, 21.
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– Okay.
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All right. – So that’s good.
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– You said, sorry, where are you for isolation again?
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– I’m at my apartment in Charlotte, I’m alone,
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with my kid, with my daughter, Sasha.
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– How old is she?
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– She is almost 10 weeks old.
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– She’s brand new.
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– She’s brand new!
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I love her.
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I just got her once when she turned eight weeks.
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– Oh, is she adopted?
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What?
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– Yeah, she’s a cat.
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– I was so confused. – I did that to my friends.
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I was like, “Hey, I’m with a child,”
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or, “I’m about to have a kid,”
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they were shocked.
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They’re like, “Wait a second man, what?”
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– Man, what a relief.
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I was like 10 weeks.
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I was like, “They put her on this dating thing
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“after having a baby 10 weeks ago?
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“What is happening?”
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Okay, all right.
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Well congratulations on your new cat.
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So when do I get to meet your daughter?
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– I can bring her right now.
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– Oh, she there?
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– So this is Sasha.
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You just got up from her nap.
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Say hi Sasha.
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– Your idea of a perfect Friday night is watching a movie.
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For work, you are a pharmacist.
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Last movie or TV show, et cetera,
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that made you cry was “Up”
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and for you, COVID isolation has been fun
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because Sasha keeps you busy.
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– My idea of a perfect Friday night is movie,
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Chipotle take-out and sleep.
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For work, I’m a billing analyst.
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The last TV/movie that made me cry was “A Silent Voice”.
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For me, COVID isolation has been chill/fun
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because I’ve been able to reprioritize
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and focus on my goals.
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Your idea of a perfect Friday night
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is cooking a meal at home and watching a movie.
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For work, you are a photographer.
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The last TV or movie that made you cry was “1917”.
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For you, COVID isolation has been a rollercoaster
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because you are not able to travel.
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– My idea of a perfect Friday night is kickboxing
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followed by a big meal.
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For work, I’m an assessment specialist.
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The last TV/movie that made me cry was
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“Final Fantasy VII” remake.
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I just beat it.
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And for me, COVID isolation has been chilled
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because it’s nice being home.
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– What was the movie you said that made you cry?
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– It was a video–
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– The “Final Fantasy VII,” really?
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– Have you played it, first of all
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before you start judging people?
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It’s good, I’m just gonna say that, it’s great.
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I didn’t expect to cry, but I did.
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I’m not, look, I’m not ashamed of anything.
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I’ll cry again, I’ll cry right now.
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It was great, I had a great time.
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– Don’t be ashamed.
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Wear it proudly, cry over a video game.
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Wear it proudly.
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– When the emotion hit the emotion hits.
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Do you want to be a billing specialist
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or is that the career?
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– No, honestly, I would love to be an actress.
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I’m going to school for it, finally.
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Now after fighting it, I really–
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– Like film acting, stage acting…
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– All of it to be honest.
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My biggest goal is to really like,
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be in a Anime voice acting– – Really?
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Voice acting? – Yes,
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and I would love to play in a Ninja film or a samurai movie
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and I also would love to be in a foreign film,
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speaking their native language.
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– Yeah, are you good with languages?
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Do you pick them up pretty quick?
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Are you studying some or…
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– Well, I’m pretty solid.
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I just need to practice it ’cause when I don’t practice,
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I forget everything.
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I used to kind of know Chinese and Spanish
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and now it’s like, I know none of it.
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– What?
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– All I know is,
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– I lived in China for a year and a half,
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so I speak a little Chinese yeah and a little bit of–
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– Wow, that’s awesome.
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– Yeah, I practice a lot.
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I love Chinese.
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It’s a beautiful language.
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I’m very bad at it so I asked them to pass.
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It’s tough.
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– You do not try to convert people to your religion
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because you feel like it is a choice not to convince people.
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Those outside your religion will not go to hell.
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It is not important to you
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that your children are raised
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with your specific spiritual beliefs.
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Religion is not needed for a strong moral compass.
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You would date someone who held
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different spiritual beliefs than yours.
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– I do not try to convert people to my religion
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because my actions should speak for themselves.
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Those outside my religion will not,
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might not, that’s not up to me
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but I don’t think they’re especially positioned
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to go to hell.
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It is important to me that my children
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are raised with my specific spiritual beliefs.
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Religion is not needed for a strong moral compass.
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I would date somebody who held
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different spiritual beliefs than mine.
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You do not try to convert people to your religion
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because you believe that everyone
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has to find their own spiritual path.
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Those outside your religion will not go to hell.
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It is not important to you that your children
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are raised with your specific spiritual beliefs.
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Religion is not needed for a strong moral compass.
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You would date somebody who held
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different spiritual beliefs than yours.
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– I do try to convert people to my religion
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because my role is to save souls by preaching the gospel.
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Those outside my religion will go to hell.
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It is important to me that my children
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are raised with my specific spiritual beliefs.
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Religion is needed for a strong moral compass.
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I would not date someone who held
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different spiritual beliefs than mine.
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– Okay, the real stuff.
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Yeah, I think I just underestimated
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how important religion,
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obviously we hadn’t talked about it
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so I had no idea.
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So I assumed it wasn’t a huge part of your life.
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That’s interesting to hear that.
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It seems like it is.
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It’s a very big part of your life and you’re very devout.
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When it comes to converting people,
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what does that look like for you?
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Is that like, you’re out there sometimes,
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evangelizing or is it more people you know,
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people you’re connected with?
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How do you go about that?
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– It can go both ways.
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I’m actually part of the ministry
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where we were told pretty soon
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that we’ll be out on the streets.
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All of these is just really sharing information.
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That’s all it is.
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It’s just we share and then we also show it
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through our actions, through the love of Christ.
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There is no forcing.
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There is really no big spectacle about it,
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it’s just a regular conversation
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just like what we’re having between two people.
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It’s really a dialogue.
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At the end of the day, I believe it’s a choice.
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It is a choice for everybody.
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– Yeah, nice.
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– Okay, these say, religion is not needed
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for a strong moral compass.
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Why is that?
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– I think the teachings of a religion can be extracted,
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can be separate from the religion
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and I think there’s plenty of people on earth
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who’ve probably never heard of my belief system
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or how I practice it
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but they might live their life in a way
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that’s more consistent with my belief system than I do.
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And so, for me religion
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has been a moral compass, definitely.
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I’ve met people who don’t have it,
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who are definitely more moral than I at work,
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who are great people.
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And so I think there’s room for a moral life
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without it for sure
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but what are your thoughts?
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You disagree, yeah?
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What do you think?
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– I guess for me, I’ve always thought
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that the goodness of people had to come from somewhere.
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It didn’t just come out of thin air
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as a lot of people would think
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that this world kinda came out of thin air.
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I honestly strongly do not believe
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that it just came from nothing,
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that all of a sudden someone thought,
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oh, I’m gonna be nice to this person.
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Like, just out of nowhere, it came from something
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and I always thought, with the goodness of God,
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that was what was installed in us
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when he created each and every one of us
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was goodness, was this piece and this grace and whatnot
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but at the same time, as you had mentioned before,
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that freewill,
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that choice of wanting to be a good person,
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that choice of wanting to be a nice person,
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that choice of showing those certain emotions
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or feelings and whatnot.
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So, I guess you could say
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I felt like it came from somewhere,
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that moral compass, that wanting to be good,
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that wanting to make the right decision,
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that wanting to be the good person,
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be the good guy, not the bad guy,
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it came from somewhere and I always thought,
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well, that it came from God the Father, it came from Him.
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Since we’re all a part of Him,
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that’s what I’ve always thought.
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When I first saw you,
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I said,
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I would date you
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but now that I’ve gotten to know you,
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I said,
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I would still date you.
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– When I first saw you,
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I said that,
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I would date you
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and now that I’ve gotten to know you,
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I have decided that,
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I would still date you.
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It just reinforced how little you know about somebody.
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I felt like as a person who’s in the world of dating apps,
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it shows how kind of useless these snap judgments are.
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If people like, whether based on pictures
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or based on the answers they provide or,
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that’s just not,
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people that are way more complicated than that.
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– And it also shows how
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the things that we have experienced
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and things that we have seen in life,
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how it also morphs our assumptions as well
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because honestly, I was going based off of his looks
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all together like, well I bet you,
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I know everything about…
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I could read him like a book.
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Come and find out, oh Lord, I’m way off.
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God, that was wrong.
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This is actually like my very first date day
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with a stranger.
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I don’t do first dates ’cause I think
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people are insane.
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– They are.
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– I watch way too much TV.
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I promise you that.
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– That’s awesome, I feel so honored, thank you.
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People of YouTube,
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thank you so much for watching “Tell My Story”
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– And thank you to everyone who suggested
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we find a way to do this.
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